Love is So Much More Than Words

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My Mother, Mable

This time of year, my mother is at the forefront of my thoughts. Mable was born October 30, 1926. She passed away nine years ago and I miss her every day.

When I was a teenager, I didn’t always get along with my mother. Mom was not an affectionate woman and we often butted heads. She could be short-tempered, abrupt, and demanding. Like most teenagers who know it all, it was obvious to me that she didn’t like me, much less love me.

As an adult looking back at that time, I marvel not only at how much she was dealing with, but how greatly she loved me and how much she taught me without me even realizing it.

Mom taught me that you do what you have to do to take care of your family. At 48 years old, after already raising three older children of her own and three stepchildren, Mom was still raising two teenagers. Also in our home and under her care were her elderly father, who had colon cancer and an often contrary disposition; her uncle, who was legally blind; and her second husband – my father – who was slowly dying of heart disease and had multiple heart attacks. From opening her own thrift shop to cutting up chickens in a poultry plant, she found ways to support us all financially while putting three home-cooked meals a day on the table, performing as a nurse, and making sure that homework was done.

Mom taught me how to pinch a penny until it screamed. When Daddy died, we had very little money coming in to our household. Having been spoiled and sheltered from all of that, I didn’t get why I couldn’t still have everything I wanted. After the hundredth argument over why I couldn’t have that cute pair of shoes I just had to have, she handed me the family checkbook and said, “You take over paying the bills. If there’s anything left at the end of the month, it’s yours.” No surprise – there wasn’t anything! It didn’t take me long to figure out how to make do, makeover, or do without!

Mom taught me that love isn’t always shown with a hug or even the words. I was the kid that waited until 9:00 at night to remember that I needed three dozen cupcakes for school tomorrow. Mom would let me know she wasn’t happy with me, but come morning, there were always at least three dozen of the best tasting homemade cupcakes ready to go. When my school club’s bus didn’t show for our field trip, I didn’t even hesitate to volunteer my mom and the family van to take us. I called – she came. I can think of a hundred ways that I took her for granted because, of course, I could. No matter what, she was always there.

I don’t know exactly when all of these lessons kicked in, but I do remember that, at some point in my mid-20’s, I realized that my mother loved me in the very best ways possible. She loved me enough to teach me that life isn’t always easy or pretty, but I am strong enough to persevere. She taught me that it’s easy to say I love somebody, but it’s more important to be there for them when they need me. Probably the biggest lesson that she taught me was to be fearless – to try things, to fail and get back up and try again. Thanks, Mom, for teaching me how to be the most AWESOME me that I can be!

Odette

Odette

Odette is a 50+ optimist that is still discovering new things in life that excite her. After many years of admin work and teaching adult computer classes, blogging seemed to be a new frontier to explore.

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About Odette

Odette is a 50+ optimist that is still discovering new things in life that excite her. After many years of admin work and teaching adult computer classes, blogging seemed to be a new frontier to explore. AVAILABLE FOR TUTORING: "I have 10+ years experience teaching computer skills. My students have included novices who have never turned on a computer, seniors who want to join the technical age, experienced users who need to learn the tricks to becoming a Microsoft Office power user. If you live in the Lompoc, CA area and are interested in private tutoring, feel free to contact me at aobradshawsheeley@comcast.net."
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7 Responses to Love is So Much More Than Words

  1. Sue says:

    You are a beautiful person and I feel blessed for having you as a treasured friend. Let me add a thank you to your Mother for her contribution for making you what you are.

    • aobradshawsheeley says:

      Mom would have adored you as much as I do, Sue. And you have had more than your share of influence in shaping me as well – thank you!

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